Why We Waver

“No man is able to make progress when he is wavering between opposite things.”-Epictetus

There is often a vast chasm between what you want and what you think you deserve.  Most children imagine wildly.  The world is their plaything, malleable and magic.  Then enters the Voice that belongs to a parent or other authority figure telling them how silly they are.  The world doesn’t work like that.  And then comes  the commentary that will follow the child into adulthood.  They are not smart enough, beautiful enough, thin enough, rich enough, etc., to ever achieve what they want.  Avoid the hurt, aim low. 

Anytime the child turned adult dares to venture out, sooner or later they will be reminded of the commentary.  When I work with people I help them to remember that they are not the author of that commentary, but because it came from authority, they believed it.  And they spend their lives finding things in the world around them to uphold it, in their bosses, the daily things that happen, and every event no matter how small.

Walt Disney, Oprah Winfrey, J.K. Rowling, and so many others were told they would never succeed.  Walt Disney’s editor at the Kansas Star fired him because he said Disney “lacked imagination”.  My advice:  it’s time to realize who the real creator of your life really is.  Once you understand and work with this, things can happen quickly.  This is who you really are:

  • The Author:  A lot of things happen in our lives, both good and bad.  But we get to choose how we work with that, feel about that.  And when we realize that we are independent of our experiences, that we can choose to be loving, kind, imaginative, it is time for:
  • The Editor:  What does your story look like?  How would you edit it to make it more enticing to a reader?  Let me explain what this might look like.  I’m not asking you to create fiction, I’m asking you to create perspective.  Let’s say you are working a job you dread going to everyday.  And you really want to be somewhere else.  If all your mind can do is focus on how much you dread your job, there’s no room to manifest anything else.  Get some perspective.  Let’s say you work eight hours at this job.  What positive things can you notice to and from work?  Are the leaves turning color?  Do you remember as a kid skipping through piles of leaves feeling free and wonderful?  Ah!  Now we have a little space that’s different.  In that little space there is something besides dread.  There’s a memory that’s joyful.  Capture that emotion and create from that emotion.